The Importance of Patience: When Slow Becomes Your Superpower
There’s this Zulu saying I absolutely love: “The moon moves slowly, but it crosses the town.”
Just sit with that for a second. The moon never rushes. Doesn’t apologize for taking its sweet time. Doesn’t frantically check its watch like “oh no, am I behind schedule?” And yet – every single night – it makes the whole journey across the sky. Slowly. Steadily. Gets there anyway.
Here’s what nobody tells you about patience: it’s not about standing still while life rushes past you. It’s not gritting your teeth and pretending you’re fine. Real patience is the moon’s secret – trusting your own pace, knowing that slow doesn’t mean stuck.
Our world has completely forgotten this.
We want overnight success delivered in two business days with express shipping. The relationship depth that usually takes years? We want it by the third date. The calm that comes from months of practice? We want it from one meditation session. Everything we want, we want it faster.
Unfortunately this happened a lot to me in my younger years. I would be so caught up with my own problems I failed to really enjoy others around me. That is probably one of my biggest regrets that has taught me to be more present and enjoy those around me instead of getting caught up in my own life. Now I try to focus and be present as much as possible. I feel my relationships are becoming richer every day.
What if I told you that patience isn’t just a nice virtue your grandmother talked about? What if patience is actually the key to raising your vibration, moving up the Emotional Guidance Scale, and finally allowing what you want to arrive?
Let me show you what patience really is – and what it isn’t.
I. What Patience Actually Is (Hint: Not What You Think)
So most people think patience means sitting there with clenched fists, white-knuckling your way through waiting, pretending you’re not screaming inside. That’s not patience. That’s just endurance with a pretty label.
Real patience? Abraham Hicks calls it allowing. And once you understand this, everything shifts. It’s knowing that what you want is already on its way to you. Your job isn’t to yank it toward you faster – your job is just to stay in alignment while it arrives.
Think about ordering something online. Once you’ve placed the order, you don’t stand at your front door every thirty seconds checking for the delivery truck, right? You go about your life. You stay in a good mood. You trust that the package is in transit. That’s what patience actually feels like.
So what is patience, really? It’s active trust in how things unfold. It’s staying aligned while the universe does its thing. It’s moving at nature’s pace instead of your ego’s frantic timeline. Believing in timing you can’t see yet. Choosing thoughts that feel better while you’re waiting for the thing to show up.
And what patience is NOT – it’s not passive waiting while life happens to you. It’s not tolerating bad situations because you think you “should” be patient. It’s not giving up on what you want. It’s not suppressing your frustration until you explode. And it’s definitely not being a doormat and letting people walk all over you.
Can you feel the difference? One feels calm but engaged. The other feels like you’re gritting your teeth trying not to lose it. Your body knows which one you’re doing.
II. Why Impatience Keeps You Stuck (And How to Recognize It)
Okay, let’s talk about what impatience actually is in vibrational terms. When you’re impatient, you’re basically broadcasting this: “I don’t trust this. I don’t trust the timing. I don’t trust that it’s coming. I need proof RIGHT NOW or I’m going to lose it.”
That’s pure resistance. It’s like trying to drive with the parking brake on – sure, you might move forward a little, but you’re working ten times harder and basically burning out your engine in the process.
So here’s what happens when you get impatient. First thing – your vibration drops. On the Emotional Guidance Scale, impatience hangs out around level 10. Frustration. Irritation. That’s nowhere near the joy and freedom at level 1 where manifestation actually flows easily.
Then it gets worse – you activate Unconscious Dark Manifestation without even realizing it. Remember the Four Types? When you’re frantically trying to force things to happen faster, you’re creating from fear. From scarcity. You’re in that Unconscious Dark zone, and the universe is responding to your energy of “it’s not here and it’s probably never coming,” not your words of “I want this so badly.”
And here’s the kicker – impatience blocks the allowing. The whole Law of Allowing says once you’ve asked, you let it in. But impatience is you standing at the door with your arms crossed, foot tapping, checking your watch. And when the delivery finally shows up? You’re too busy being irritated to even notice it’s there.
Now listen – impatience isn’t “bad.” It’s just contrast. It’s showing you that you want to feel different. And that’s actually valuable information! Where you are is perfect, even when where you are is impatient. The real question is: can you reach for a thought that feels just a tiny bit better?
Many clients suffer from impatience about what they want. That is natural and completely understandable. When I try to explain to them the importance of embodying what they want, and finding other ways to fill the time they are using to wait to things they can enjoy is the best way to allow the wellbeing of all they want. This way time moves in a fun and productive way.
III. The VM Method for Building Patient Power
Here’s how we build real patience using the VM Method – Ground, Discover, Embody. This isn’t theory. This is the actual process that transforms impatient panic into patient power.
Ground: Arrive in This Moment
Impatience lives in the future. “When will this happen? Why isn’t it here yet? How much longer?” Your mind is three weeks, three months, three years ahead of your body.
To ground is to arrive fully in now. Not yesterday’s disappointment. Not tomorrow’s possibility. Right here, right now, in this breath.
This moment is the only one where you have any power. This is where patience lives – in the calm, regulated state of being here now. When you ground, you stop racing ahead of yourself. You arrive. You’re present. And from that presence, patience becomes natural.
Try this right now: Take one slow breath. Feel your body in the chair. Notice something in your environment you hadn’t noticed before. That’s grounding. That’s where patience begins.
This connects directly to mindfulness – the practice of being fully present. When you’re truly here, impatience dissolves because impatience only exists when you’re mentally somewhere else.
Discover: Uncover What Patience Actually Feels Like
Here’s the thing – most of us have been impatient for so long that we’ve completely forgotten what patience even feels like in our bodies. So we need to discover it again. Like meeting an old friend you haven’t seen in years.
Patience feels like: soft belly, relaxed shoulders, open chest, steady breath. This sense of “it’s all unfolding perfectly, even if I can’t see how yet.” It feels like trust.
Impatience feels like: tight chest, clenched jaw, shallow breathing, constant mental checking. This sense of “this should be different NOW and I can’t stand it.”
So the discovery phase is just about noticing. When impatience starts rising, you pause. Where is it in your body? What does it actually feel like? And then – here’s the magic – can you soften just a tiny bit? Can you take one breath and relax your shoulders by maybe 10%? That’s it.
You’re discovering the difference between forcing and allowing. Between pushing and flowing. Your body teaches you this – not your mind.
“The ant builds its house with patience.”
— Igbo Proverb, Nigeria
Embody: Make Patience Your Natural Way of Being
This is where the magic happens. Embodiment means patience becomes who you are, not something you do.
The Nigerian Igbo people know this. Their proverb about the ant isn’t saying “look how cute, the ant is so patient.” No – they’re saying that patience is how the house gets built. Small action. Repeated. Trusted. No rushing. Just steady, patient building.
When you embody patience, you’re not white-knuckling your way through waiting. You’re being the person who trusts the process. You’re living from Conscious Light Manifestation – deliberately creating from alignment and trust, not from fear and forcing.
This is where self-compassion becomes essential. You’ll slip back into impatience. You’ll have moments of “why isn’t this happening faster?” And that’s perfect. That’s human. Can you be patient with yourself as you learn patience? Can you offer yourself the same gentle understanding you’d give a dear friend?
Embodiment happens through practice. The exercises below will help you become patient, not just act patient. There’s a profound difference.
IV. Patience and Your Relationship With Time
Here’s something wonderful that happens when you develop real patience – your whole relationship with time transforms. Like completely.
Most people are at war with time. They’re either behind it, racing to catch up, or they’re ahead of it, anxiously waiting for the future to arrive. Either way, they’re never actually with time. Never moving at its natural pace, in its natural flow.
Patience lets you make peace with time. Not in a passive “whatever happens happens” way – that’s not what I’m talking about. I mean an active “I’m working with time, not against it” kind of peace. This is what we dig into in our teaching on productivity and time – how to actually use time as your ally instead of your enemy.
When you’re patient, you stop micromanaging every timeline. You trust that things show up at the perfect moment – not early, not late, but right when they’re supposed to. You can actually enjoy the journey instead of just pining for the destination. You stop measuring your worth by how fast you’re “getting there,” and you realize something huge: where you are right now IS the journey. This isn’t the waiting room. This is it.
This connects so beautifully to contentment – being genuinely happy with what is, even while you’re moving toward what’s next. Patience and contentment are dance partners. You really can’t have one without the other.
V. When Patience Becomes Your Superpower
Let me tell you what nobody mentions about patience – it gives you an almost unfair advantage in life. I’m serious.
While everyone else is sprinting, burning out, forcing, pushing, and ultimately crashing – you’re just the moon. Slowly crossing the town. And guess what happens? You actually arrive while they’re still frantically racing in circles, exhausted and nowhere near the finish line.
Patient people build things that actually last because they’re not cutting corners trying to get there faster. They make way better decisions because they’re not panicking. Their relationships go deeper because they give people the time to unfold naturally. They manifest more powerfully because they’re in that state of allowing instead of resistance. And they experience so much more joy because they’re actually present in the journey instead of wishing it would hurry up already.
Patience is basically the foundation of resilience. When something doesn’t work out on your timeline – and let’s be honest, most things don’t – patience lets you stay steady, adjust, and keep building. Impatient people? They crumble when things take longer than expected. Patient people just keep building their ant house, one tiny grain of sand at a time.
This is also where acceptance and patience meet up. You accept where you are without giving up. You accept the timing without resignation. You accept that some things just take time, and that’s not a problem. It’s just how real growth actually works.
One of my most amazing examples in my own life is manifesting a job, move, and amazing experience just by being present and without looking for it. It was easy to be patient because I didn’t even know this type of experience existed. That was the best teaching experience I received, that by just focusing on being happy, kind and doing the best job I could, the world opens doors we can’t begin to imagine how wonderful they are.
Ready to Practice?
Understanding patience is one thing. Embodying it is another entirely.
Below you’ll find two practices – one quick (Dip In) and one deeper (Embody It). Start with whichever calls to you. The moon doesn’t worry about which path to take across the sky. It just moves.
And so can you.
💧 Dip In: The One-Breath Pause
Time: 2 minutes | What you’ll need: Just yourself
This is your emergency patience tool. Use it the moment you feel impatience rising – in the grocery line, waiting for an email, stuck in traffic, watching the manifestation timeline stretch longer than you’d like.
Try this:
- Notice the impatience. Where is it in your body? Tight chest? Clenched jaw? Racing thoughts? Just notice, don’t judge.
- Take one slow breath. Breathe in for 4 counts, hold for 2, breathe out for 6. Just one breath – that’s it.
- Soften something. Relax your shoulders by 10%. Unclench your jaw slightly. Soften your belly. Just one small softening.
- Say this silently: “It’s unfolding. I’m safe. I can trust this pace.”
That’s it. One breath. One softening. One reminder. You’ve just moved up one notch on the Emotional Guidance Scale, from frustration toward hope. And one notch is everything.
🌊 Embody It: The Patient Gardener Practice
Time: 15-20 minutes | What you’ll need: Journal, quiet space, optional meditation audio
For a guided version of this practice, try Finding Light – Challenging Moments from our meditation playlist.
This practice helps you embody patience by connecting to nature’s perfect timing. You’ll visualize yourself as a gardener – someone who plants seeds, tends them with care, and trusts the underground work happening before any green shoots appear.
The Practice:
Part 1: Ground (5 minutes)
Find a comfortable seat. Close your eyes. Take five slow, deep breaths.
Feel your body in the chair. Notice the temperature of the air. Hear the sounds around you. Arrive fully in this moment. Not yesterday. Not tomorrow. Right here, right now.
Say to yourself: “I am here. This moment is enough. I am safe.”
Part 2: Discover Through Visualization (8 minutes)
Imagine yourself in a beautiful garden at dawn. The air is cool, the light is soft, and you’re holding a packet of seeds.
These seeds represent something you’re waiting for – a manifestation, a goal, a dream, a relationship healing, anything you want that hasn’t arrived yet.
You kneel down and plant each seed with care. You cover them gently with soil. You water them. And then – here’s the key – you trust them.
You know these seeds are doing their underground work right now. Roots are forming. Life is organizing itself. Growth is happening that you cannot see.
You don’t dig them up to check. You don’t panic that nothing’s showing yet. You don’t compare your garden to anyone else’s. You simply trust the process and tend to what you can tend to – the watering, the sunlight, the care.
Feel what patience feels like in your body as you imagine this. Soft belly. Open heart. Calm mind. This is the vibration of allowing.
Stay with this feeling for as long as you like.
Part 3: Embody Through Journaling (7 minutes)
Open your eyes and write freely on these prompts:
- What “seeds” have I planted (asked for, set in motion) that are doing underground work right now?
- What would it feel like to trust this underground growth completely?
- Where am I digging up my seeds to check on them (forcing, controlling, micromanaging)?
- What does my patient gardener self know that my impatient self keeps forgetting?
Integration:
For the next 7 days, practice being the patient gardener. When impatience arises, remind yourself: “My seeds are growing underground. I trust the process. I tend to what I can tend to today.”
This isn’t just a nice metaphor. This is how Conscious Light Manifestation actually works. You plant (ask), you tend (align), you trust (allow), and the garden grows.
The Moon Is Already Moving
Remember that Zulu wisdom from the beginning? The moon moves slowly, but it crosses the town.
You’re the moon. You’re already moving. Even when it feels like absolutely nothing is happening, you’re crossing the sky. Even when it looks like you’re stuck in place, you’re in motion.
Patience isn’t about sitting around waiting for permission to move. It’s about trusting that you’re already moving at exactly the right pace. Your pace. Moon pace. Nature’s perfect timing that doesn’t need to be rushed or fixed or improved.
And just like the moon, you will cross the town. You will arrive. The question isn’t if. The question is whether you’ll enjoy the journey or exhaust yourself trying to make it go faster.
So choose patience. Choose trust. Choose to move at your own beautiful, steady, inevitable pace.
The town is waiting. And you’re already on your way.
Ready to Embody Patient Power?
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Common Questions About Patience
Moving at moon pace in a world that rushes
Because your brain is literally wired for immediate reward - it's not your fault. Our ancestors needed quick responses to survive (see predator, run now, not later). That same wiring makes us crave instant results. Patience isn't natural; it's a skill you build through practice. The good news? Every time you choose patience over panic, you're rewiring those neural pathways. Start small - practice patience with traffic lights, then work up to bigger things. You're not broken for struggling with this. You're just working with biology that hasn't caught up to modern life yet.
Here's the secret: patience isn't about standing still while life moves - it's about moving at the right pace for YOU. The moon crosses the town slowly but steadily. It doesn't compare its speed to the shooting stars. When you feel life is passing you by, you're comparing your chapter 3 to someone else's chapter 20. Instead, ask: "Am I moving forward at a sustainable pace? Am I building something that will last?" Patient growth means you arrive with your foundation intact, not burned out from sprinting. You're not behind. You're exactly where you need to be to build what you're building.
Patience is active trust - you're engaged, present, and tending to what you can tend to while trusting the timeline. Passivity is giving up - you've checked out emotionally and stopped participating. Here's how to tell the difference: Patient people feel calm but engaged (like a gardener tending seeds). Passive people feel resigned or numb (like someone who stopped watering the garden). Stuck people feel trapped and frustrated (like someone digging up seeds to check them). If you're taking aligned action, staying present, and trusting the process - that's patience. If you've stopped caring or stopped trying - that's passivity. Your body knows which one you're experiencing.
Seeds do their most important work underground where you can't see them. Roots form. Cells organize. Life prepares to emerge. Just because you can't see results doesn't mean nothing's happening - it means everything's happening underground. Your patient practice IS the result. Every time you choose calm over panic, trust over forcing, you're building the roots that will support the visible growth later. Ask yourself: "Am I doing my part? Am I staying in alignment? Am I tending to what I can tend to?" If yes, then results are forming beneath the surface. The green shoots will appear when the roots are strong enough. Trust your underground work.
Patient persistence feels like calm engagement - you're present, aligned, and it feels right even though it's taking time. Forced patience feels like grinding - tight chest, clenched jaw, telling yourself "I should keep waiting" while your whole body screams to move. If patience feels peaceful (even when it's challenging), keep going. If patience feels like you're betraying yourself, forcing yourself to stay when everything in you wants to leave - that's not patience, that's fear dressed up as virtue. Your body knows the difference. Real patience energizes you. False patience depletes you. Listen to your body, not your "shoulds."
